Beyond the Duality of Forgiveness
Tom Fortes Meyer invites us to trust in the perfection of the unfolding and come to peace with our past.
This article first appeared in Watkins Mind Body Spirit, issue 46.
The most enlightened being is able to meet the present moment in its entirety without any resistance at all. To essentially be able to say, “Yes” to what is. However, we are not able to say a full and complete “Yes” to what is, unless we are 100% at peace with who we are in that moment because we are, of course, part of that moment. I have come to understand very deeply that we cannot be 100% at peace with whom we are unless we are 100% at peace with every single thing that has ever happened to us. Has the universe made a mistake with you and your past?
Freedom is not about becoming amazing in spite of your past. Your greatest glory has been made possible because of your past. Your most authentic empathy, your deepest compassion and the source of all your most insightful understanding comes from the challenges you have had to face, from the difficulties that have been placed perfectly in your way. A broken heart is an open heart and every fragment of loss, every sting of disappointment and every laceration of betrayal, big and small, has given you everything you need to be exactly who you are – perfectly formed to respond to each and every divine moment with your perfect and unique response. I know my client’s healing is complete when they are truly grateful for the very thing they first presented as a “problem”. When we truly understand the interconnectedness of all things, we know that everything fits together. Even the most challenging of situations can have unmistakable golden threads of love and freedom woven through them. When we recognize that sacred weave, we would not go back and change a thing. Not one thing.
What therefore, is there to forgive? That does not mean we sanction and celebrate cruelty or neglect, abuse or aggression. It simply means that we trust in the perfection of the unfolding, no matter how difficult it might once have been. Forgiveness keeps the righteous torch of duality and suffering burning bright. Within forgiveness there is a “wrong” that must be accepted. If that experience is a gift (and they always are) and a person is playing out some divine role, what is there to forgive? However, we cannot force ourselves to be grateful for the difficult things we have experienced. It is not a choice. It is a perspective that arrives naturally when we truly see the beauty of the interconnection of all things. When we see the gift shining in the dark. Then we can finally see the perfection in our own paradox, our own neuroses, our own unique mixture of dreams and difficulty, desperation and desire, beauty and grace. Our tragedies, and the grit required to stomach them, make us the perfect key for the perfect lock. What, I wonder, is seeking an opening through you?
You are perfect and so is everything that brought you to this moment. Forgiveness gladly bows down to the sweetest gratitude where the world of right and wrong dissolves gracefully away. You are the ever-expressed oneness of all and you are magnificent exactly as you are. Know that place in your heart and you bring love to all the hearts in the world without having to lift a finger. Open that place in your mind and all judgments disappear and you can bring a presence of peace into the most challenging of times. Be in that place in your body and you connect to an ancient, endless source of such magical healing power that you could bring the most bereft, beaten and broken back to life with one simple, loving touch.
Let this moment be for your remembrance, for the full and complete realisation of the glory of your being and the absolute perfection therefore, of every moment of your unique life. A rekindling if you will, of your deepest reverence and love for the whole of life including all of its richest darkness and its most glorious fragments of enlightenment. This moment and every moment is an opportunity to experience the greatest freedom, the ultimate celebration, the sweetest surrender – the complete recognition of the perfection of all things including yourself, where we simply, with much golden gratitude, allow ourselves to be bright, beautiful, shining examples of a life lived well and our love lived fully.
Meet the author: Tom Fortes Mayer is a Harley Street hypnotherapist, international speaker and creator of the FreeMind Process – a self-hypnosis system that enables people to do deep healing on themselves. Since a profound epiphany in the year 2000, he has dedicated himself to developing innovative therapeutic approaches to help bring more peace, power and purpose to their lives.
Tom Fortes Mayer
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